Wednesday, April 16, 2014

Your Words Matter

The Good Book says life and death are in the power of the tongue – but how many of us really know what that means?

We say, “I’m broke.” “I hate my job.” “Men are crap” and then we are amazed when we don’t have any money, have a job we despise and have no relationship or (a bad one). It’s not just that we say the words; we compound the words by adding the feelings. We feel the lack, the frustration and the loneliness that intensifies the result we are getting.

So what should we do to change? We have to do more than change our words; we have to change the emotions we are feeling as well. A lot of people don’t believe in affirmations because it sounds as if we are lying to ourselves. After all, how can you claim abundance when you are looking at a negative balance in your checking account?

Affirm something you can believe to begin to turn the tides. Instead of broke, affirm “Money is coming my way.” While your mind might revolt against you saying that all men are wonderful, it would be open to something like “All men aren’t crap. There are some great men out there.” Say it and believe it. Get excited about it!

Change your words and change your focus. Focus on what is going right. Focus on what you have right now. Maybe you don’t have the financial abundance you want, but you have your health and you have a great family.

Things begin to change when you begin to change.

Monday, April 14, 2014

Tonight's Show: Boost Your Confidence, Change Your Life!

American women (and a significant number of women in Western society) have serious body image issues. This manifests in a variety of ways. We hear about anorexics and bulimics and women binge eat. We see the magazines and entertainment shows that ridicule women for being a size 6 and who extol the virtues of the practically impossible to achieve and maintain, Size Zero.

Yet the multitude of women who experience body image and acceptance issues suffer in silence. They refuse to see a doctor for fear of taking off their clothes. They fear complete sexual intimacy because of possible rejection. They dread shopping for clothes or trips to the beach. They fund the multi-billion dollar beauty industry! Their dissatisfaction shows up in a lack of confidence, unhappiness, depression, and relationship frustrations.

Our two guests confront these issues head on and help women learn to love themselves, gain confidence and embrace life on their terms. Keri Kight is the author of You’re Gorgeous: How to Love Your Body in a Perfection Obsessed Society. No matter where you are when you stand on the scale, she is dedicated to helping women (and men) can create the lives of their dreams, and it all starts with building their confidence.

Nicole LaBonde wears a lot of hats: fitness instructor, entrepreneur and public speaking coach; but regardless of the hat she is wearing, her mission is the same – to help women build their confidence. She is dedicated to helping women take back their power through their bodies, voices and mindset.

This is going to be a powerful hour and one the women – and girls – in your life should hear. 

Wednesday, April 9, 2014

Lessons Well Learned

Failure is necessary. We learn more form mistakes, missteps and setbacks than we learn from our successes. Failure is never pretty or planned, but when failure happens, it is what happens next that makes the difference between ultimate success or permanent defeat. Here are a few things to keep in mind.

Failure Happens. This isn't a pessimistic or negative statement. It's a reality. The road to success is never a straight and smooth ride. There are curves, uphill and downhill passages, detours and roadblocks. When you start on your journey to success, expect these things and don't be surprised by them. In fact, you should have some plans in place to handle the most likely setbacks to occur.

Naysayers Take Notice: When you experience a setback, there will be people there to tell you that they told you so or that they knew it was going to happen. They wanted to see you go down and once you fall down, there goal is to keep you there. Always have a few people around you that will help you back up with encouragement and support.

Learn the Lesson: Why did things not go as planned? What can you do differently? Were there signs and signals along the way that you ignored? Within each failure is at least one lesson you can learn to make things better the next time around. Learn those lessons and you are setting yourself up for success

Setbacks are Temporary: True failures are permanent. To truly fail, you have to give up and stop trying. If you fall down and get back up and persevere you will eventually succeed. But that success will never happen is you give up.

Monday, April 7, 2014

Tonight's Show: What Men Do Well and Why Cats Don't Bark

Get It Together Girl is all about helping women 'get it together'. And men, are a big thing that a lot of us need to work on. This show is dedicated to what men do well and some of the major relationship differences between the sexes.

Nick Theophilou is the author of the eBook 10 Things that Men Do Well. After hearing years of male-bashing, Theophilou sought to bring some balance to the male image by finding and focusing on some things that  men are getting right. Join us as we discuss men being better mates, bromances and fatherhood!

Kevin Darne is the author of My Cat Won't Bark (A Relationship Epiphany). In his book, he advocates entering a relationship with complete awareness, realistic expectations and self-empowerment. We're going to focus on his tips for online dating, the different types of cheaters and his Recipe for Relationship Happiness!

This will be a provocative and proactive hour. You won't want to miss it!

Monday, March 31, 2014

Tonight's Show: Stunned by Grief

If you have ever lost a loved one, you know how painful grief can be. If you haven’t experienced loss yet, at some point you will. Loss is a part of life and a part of love. Getting through it is difficult but necessary. Some people get stuck in a state of grief – consumed by anger or drowning in depression. Yet, even those that successfully navigate grief, experience those emotions.

On tonight’s show, we’ll have two authors discussing grief, Judy Brizendine is the author of Stunned by Grief and Mardria Williams is the author of When Sorrow Comes My Way, I Look Up and Forge Forward.

On the second half of the show, Kartika Anderson will discuss how art helped heal her from a life-long struggle with depression. Her book is Turning Blue to Blue: How God Used Art to Lift my Depression.
Although grief and depression sound like depressing topics, tune in to find how these negative occurrences can have a positive outcome. Expect an uplifting hour!

Wednesday, March 26, 2014

Why Wait?

If you are waiting for the perfect time, here’s a newsflash: there is no perfect time. There is no perfect time to move, to have a child, to get married. Now, before you go off and move to another city, have a baby and get married to someone you barely know, let me tell you the difference between a good time and a perfect time.

Just because you don’t write a list down and check off every item, doesn’t mean you don’t have a list. You know what you are looking for in a partner. You know what you need to consider a major move or career change or to go back to school. You have at least a mental list if not a written list.

So when faced with a major decision, are the big items on your list checked off? A good friend wanted to move to another city, but she was her mom’s main caregiver. There was no way she was moving until she knew that her mom was going to be okay and well taken care of. She was also a home owner, in a slow real estate market. Of course, her job was an issue too.

Once she had gotten her mom settled, she still had to contend with the home and job issues. She had it on the market for several months with no luck. She looked into having a management company rent it out. Even after they took their fee, there was enough left to completely pay her mortgage and give her a little bit as well.
Finally, since she worked from home most of the time, she spoke to her boss about her desire to relocate, and the boss approved.

At this point, all of the major items on her checklist were checked off. Was everything perfect of course not. She had a few friends and family members that weren’t going to be happy with her decision. The move was also going to cost a little more than she expected. Yet, these were smaller things. It wasn’t up to her to make her friends happy and she could get by with the increased costs.

So she moved. She’s been in her new city four years now and loves it.

My point is that everything on your list might not be checked off. And if you need to have everything just so then consider the fact that you might have a case of procrastination masquerading as perfectionism. If a guy treats you well, has a good job, a great sense of humor and is reliable but you hate his cologne, should that be the reason why you don’t get together?

A perfect time to act is always going to be perfect. However, if perfect never comes, a good time to act is often better than not acting at all.